with author Allana Pratt
5 intimate, inexpensive ways to gift your lover this holiday season
This New Year, consider giving an intimate gift & receive the most wonderful connection ever!
One of the biggest mistakes couples make is to expect sex. It turns this pleasurable gift into an obligation, a necessity or a duty! Resentment begins, tit-for-tat score keeping happens or an overall disconnection or numbness occurs in intimacy… just ‘going through the motions’ or thinking about the grocery list or golf game.
One of the best ways to stay connected sexually is to expand your gift giving into a world of foreplay, sensual talking and sexy presents that appreciate your lover OUTSIDE the bedroom, building mystery and tension for when you DO make love again.
For Her: Buy her Femme Fatale Lingerie Does your woman tend to buy functional lingerie before investing in special occasion items that bring out her wild side? Figure out her size, order 2-3 items and invite her to embrace her Femme Fatale. Include a card that reads something like… “You are the most amazing, hot, sexy, gorgeous lover a man could ever dream of. Enjoy.”
For Him: Sensual Video I’ve started to take pole dancing at S Factor, a place with no mirrors and no men—just dancing for us! This reminds me that when I create a sensual dance for my man, I’m not doing it to be enough, or get him to like me, I’m expressing me for the joy of it, for the gift of my beauty, my radiance, my femininity for him. I promise you sister, once you do this for your man, you will start receiving WAY more gifts.
For Her: Buy & Read Her an Erotic Story I am currently writing my first Erotic Diary. Yet until it debuts, would you be willing to read her an erotic novel? Would you be willing to find out her sexual fantasies and read them to her, while in the bubble bath or in bed once the kids are down? Allowing our partner to see us get turned on is courageous, vulnerable and Oh So Hot.
For Him: Naughty Notes Everywhere In his toiletry bag on a business trip, in his briefcase, in his drawers of boxers, even in his gym bag tucked away, consider a note expressing your appreciation (be as naughty as you desire). Tell him his biceps make you juicy, that his voice makes you melt, that taking out the trash makes you swoon, or let him know that you’re a sure thing tonight—if he dares.
For You Both: VIP Pass into Your World of Fantasy Many lovers are timid to tell their partner their true fantasy, yet unfortunately the news breaks when the other’s secret is busted, i.e. he’s been watching porn or she’s been reading erotica. Instead, give your partner a VIP pass into your mind. Create a date night where you answer the question… Tell me something about you and your sexual fantasies. Neither party can respond with anything other than Thank you, which means I hear you, not that I agree or am going to do anything about it, just that I hear you. Then the fantasies that work for both of you can be enjoyed as your intimate relationships deepens.